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I was sitting with my youngest son this morning not able to do much work because he wanted to be held…so what did I do instead? I held him and enjoyed the amazing connection that I have with him!
You see…I absolutely adore my children! I have seven and I truly believe they are the most beautiful people on this earth!
As I was holding him I was thinking about the incredible freedom that he lives under. I don’t mean freedom from basic rules and guidelines that keep him safe and so forth…but what I am talking about is the freedom from fear, the freedom from self-doubt and the freedom from a sense of utter loneliness that so many people actually feel and realize when they are being honest with themselves.
My son knows my affection and lives in it. He knows what it means to “live loved.” That is his natural mode of existence. Now of course…he is loved intensely by all of us but there is something about a Father’s love that is just a bit different. It has a different sort of impact on us and it has the power, more than anything else in this universe, to free us from the abiding fear that is ever present in our surroundings. We all know it and feel it at times of uncertainty and loneliness…it is simply a proven fact.
A Father’s affection will create a barrier around the recipient that enables that person to literally soar like an eagle…no fear of tomorrow…hardly even a thought about what tomorrow may or may not bring. Someone who lives in their Father’s affection can literally conquer any obstacle and soar to any height because there is always safety in being loved by a Father!
Don’t get me wrong…I am certainly not discounting the love of a Mother or siblings or spouses or friends or anything else. We all need to feel the love of many people in our lives. The love of a Mother extends compassion to and through us…exceedingly important and so much more…things that a Father usually does not provide. However, for the most part, a Mother’s love does not have the freeing power that a Father’s love has.
That is why I say for your Business and your Life you need to live in a Father’s affection. There is no more powerful way to become truly FREE to live out life to its fullest extent. Our inability to embrace life and fully engage in life has a great deal to do with how safe we feel and how ultimately we “live loved.” A Father’s love makes us feel safe enough to explore, to attempt, to jump, to journey and grow in areas that we are not familiar with.
Life is constantly throwing hinderances in our way but our natural ability to overcome these have a great deal to do with the Freedom we feel when we are “living loved” in a Father’s affection. The good news is…even if your father was a complete idiot (hopefully not your own) a Father’s love can be experienced through a surrogate or even better through the person of God the Father.
Quite simply though…if you are finding road block after road block in your ability to engage fully as an entrepreneur or simply as a human being, take a step back and consider these things. My youngest son does amazing feats as an 18 month old boy. He does not know the “feeling” of fear. He is not hindered by self-doubt or fear or loneliness. He is completely free to look at the moment he has in front of him and fully engage in it. All that he is can be focused on what is happening right here and now because he has no outside worries of any kind. This is far from true of many 18 month old children. It is in fact more of a rarity…especially these days. By 18 months those feelings of fear and of being unsure of oneself have begun to become cemented in people’s personalities.
I personally also know of this life-changing power of feeling a Father’s affection. The freedom I now experience in life as a 46 year old man is far more than I can ever remember in my years growing up and as a young adult. I came to this realization as I was struggling through my twenties and thirties. I was daring and willing to take risks because I had it as a part of my make-up. However, I was not free of fear and so everything that I did was hampered in one way or another.
It was coming to the understanding that I am truly loved and that I really can live in the Father’s Affection (actually not just an understanding but an emotional reality as well) that freed me to begin to soar and learn how to truly appreciate this life and live it as the adventure it was intended to be. Oh I know that a lot of people live in a heightened state because they have learned how to substitute what I am talking about for strictly positive energy…but it truly is not the same. I know of both. Living in a heightened positive state is very important and powerful…but “living loved” is beyond any ability to convey in mere words.
Take a positively minded and charged individual who understands the laws of reciprocity and the law of attraction and how to positively interact with his/her fellow human beings and let them get a hold of this idea that I am talking about…and even their lives are catapulted to a different level of freedom that is really inconceivable any other way.
I am not asking anyone to become religious (religion simply destroys what I am talking about…it brings bondage and slavery) or to do anything at all other than to consider and meditate on what I am saying. If it rings true for you…I would be so happy to hear about it. If it doesn’t…I completely respect that as well and would love to communicate further with you on these things if you are so inclined.
However, it has been my experience in consulting with thousands of people that the Freedom that a person can truly feel when they feel the affection of a Father is truly unique. Entrepreneurs can soar and life can be experienced in a degree that is nearly inconceivable any other way. I hope you continue to join me on this “adventure we call life.” If you want to know more about how life can truly be lived in a degree that is beyond you wildest hopes and expectations…subscribe to our newsletter by filling in the boxes on the right…“Living Beyond the Edge…of Normal.”
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Hello Bruce, another beautiful heart-felt article… As a parent myself, i truly understand the influence a Father has in their child’s life and appreciate your view… How wonderful and blessed you are to have 7 children! thanks for sharing!
Bruce, what a great article! I’m a parent and even though I only have 1 son, he’s the world to me. The only reason I have in this world to keep moving forward is him. God bless you and your family of seven children!
Bruce!
great stuff! I am holding my daughter right now and typing is hard. I can apply what you wrote to my family and my group>
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Hi Bruce,
I can’t tell you how much I think your words are right on the money.
I spent 17 years in the software industry and had a six figure income. I was the guy too busy making a living to live a life.
I got my wake up call from my son Matt who was about 8 at the time.
He was sitting in my lap and look at me and asked… “Dad, do you still love me?”
I felt like I was stabbed in the heart. As tears came down my face I asked “Why in the world would you ever ask me that?”
He say, “I just never see you any more.”
On that day, my little boy planted a seed to set me free so I could be the dad, husband and person I truly wanted to be.
Since then I have created a multi-million dollar business in 12 different countries.
And both of my kids have had two full-time stay at home parents.
I can’t begin to tell you how our time with them shaped their character as they grew into adults.
They are awesome people today. We get told that all the time.
My “Quality of Life” journey was captured by a video crew, you and your readers can watch it and hear Matt, Christina my daughter and my wife Amy tell the story from their perspective as well.
Bring your Kleenex…
http://TerryPetrovick.com/about-2
You have a choice so, make it a better than terrific day!
Terry
Terry Petrovick´s last blog ..Online MLM Marketing Resources
HI Bruce, what an awesome post! I think any dad can relate to this..
I am also faced with that nudge often, “Dad, can you please play with me?” (my son is 3)
I put my laptop, hit standby and cherish the moment of now!
I would love to have my son keep his fearlessness and make sure as far as humanly possible that he understands what limiting beliefs can impose.
Hang on, got that nudge again..
Cheers,
George
PS: 7 kids, awesome!
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Hey George, Terry, Patrick, Pablo & Laura…I so appreciate the kind words! It is so great to have like-minded people to be walking this journey with me!
Bruce Backman´s last blog ..A Father’s Affection…Why You Need IT for Your BUSINESS and Your LIFE!
You are welcome!
George Fourie´s last blog ..How to Add Your Existing Blog to thatMLMbeat.com
Hi, Bruce!
Just WOW! It takes an incredibly perceptive person and great father to tackle such issues, but you’ve hit it on the head and found a wonderful niche in this industry! More power to you, my friend!
I’ll be following you!
Lori:)
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Bruce,
What a great article! I’m a person who can testify to the truth of what you have said re. your Family and the great love that you share for one another (having known you for 46 yrs). I’m so proud of who you are.
Sharon