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Why You Need a PERSONAL CATHARSIS to be a SUCCESSFUL Internet Marketer…

Wednesday, August 19th, 2009

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Are you tired of Spam? Who isn’t? If you are a spammer…I’m sure you are even tired of it from others! It is about time to start looking at your audience instead of yourself! They don’t want your spam and you don’t even want it! So…why do it? Perhaps that is what you were taught. I’m here to tell you…you were taught by someone heading down the wrong path! Guess what that means for you?

Internet marketing, contrary to the message of so many spammers out there, is not an “easy” business. It can be unbelievably rewarding but it is certainly not “easy” to get the cogs of momentum going in the right direction. Weren’t we constantly told growing up: “nothing that is truly worthwhile is easy?” Don’t lose heart and grow weary of doing good! There is an entire world out there just waiting to soak in what you have to share with it. To those of us waiting with great patience for you to break out of your shell and start to fly…we want you to know the journey toward success is worth every bit of your blood, sweat and tears along the way!

So you may be wondering…”what in the world are you talking about it? I make good money spamming my way through life.” NO YOU DON’T!” If you believe that then you don’t know what good money is. Besides, I know you’re miserable inside! There is no way to be able to find that great “peace that passes all understanding” when you are constantly bugging people and trying to take advantage of them. In fact…some of the greatest joys in life come as a result of “giving” not “taking.” When you give yourself away…that is really the only time you will ever find yourself! Plus…as a bonus to this serving and sharing style of living…you may just find yourself making REALLY GOOD money on top of it all.

So…if you are spamming me, my friends and the rest of us…you need a cathartic moment to “see the light.”

Okay…you’re still reading but you are not a spammer. You may have complete respect for your prospects or clients. You may be out there doing your very best… but you are getting nowhere.. You may be asking questions like: “what am I doing? I can’t seem to get anywhere in all of this. I thought I was doing the right things but nothing seems to be happening.” Or, “Will someone help me because I have no stinking idea of what I am doing?” Or, “What am I doing wrong? Why can’t I get a break of some kind?”

I know these questions myself. I have had to struggle with them. You know what? I actually found some answers and so can you. Whether you are completely missing the boat in your marketing efforts by spamming us to oblivion…or, you have tried to do everything right and it just doesn’t seem to work…I have some great news for you…THINGS CAN CHANGE…YOU CAN CHANGE!

I had to come to my own personal cathartic moment AND SO DO YOU! When I determined for myself that nothing was going to stand in my way, something clicked inside of me and began to change. It was the beginning of my catharsis. You know what I did next…I decided to get some training and education.

As I began to learn the nuts and bolts, tricks and strategies of internet marketing, my catharsis started to take a hold of me. And, as I began to realize that this business is a whole lot more than that…it is about who I am and what I have to share…I started to feel the beginning of the cleansing of my doubts and fears that were standing in my way take effect.

You see…I was constantly trying to figure out what everyone else was doing so that I could simply copy them. But, it wasn’t until I actually received training that I began to realize (thanks in large part to the training) that the only path to success for me was for me to feel free and soar myself.

There is a passage in the Bible that goes something like this: “they that wait upon the LORD will renew their strength…they will mount upon wings as an eagle, they will run and not grow weary and walk and not grow faint.” (It is not exactly like that but I think you get the idea).

You see…everyone has been given a unique set of characteristics to live within this human interactive environment. In order for it to really work properly…we need to walk these things out. That means…YOU NEED TO SHARE YOU WITH THE WORLD! Otherwise…the world will always be lacking that part that you would add to it. This, my friends, is the beginning point of catharsis. Then, when you realize the profundity of what I am saying and then make a conscious choice to follow through with it…that is where things really start to rocking and rolling.

I did not automatically turn into an internet marketing guru simply by becoming educated and not even by realizing that I have something important to share…but the process had begun. No, I then actually had to make a conscious choice to succeed. I had to actually make a conscious choice to not let anything stand in my way of success. The education is fantastic and I will never stop learning myself and then turning around and sharing with others. But, once I had found that something deep and powerful and fantastic inside of me, I was able to come to the point of choosing to succeed or die trying!

I had to first understand that I have something wonderful to share with the world but then I had to commit to truly believing it and then doing it! I needed to start sharing and it took a mountainous commitment to do so. The “do or die trying” mentality came from a growing passion deep inside with an understanding that I have something great about me that needs to be shared with the world. “Be damned if I die doing it” was the attitude that ended up really thrusting me into a cleansing of thought, fears, doubts and so forth. The great news though is that if you truly have this type of moment for yourself where you come to this point of committing to your own self and your own future…(sometimes it may feel like you are dying) you really can’t help but become successful!

So here are some of the ingredients that helped march me on to the moment of a cathartic change (you will notice a common theme of pressure here. I think you will find that the pressure in your life or the fear of what may happen if you don’t step out and make a change is very powerful indeed):

  • I have a wife and seven children and we have some real needs and also some amazing dreams together! I was completely exhausted from not having those needs met and those dreams fulfilled…this played a role in my personal catharsis. (The dreams are not fulfilled yet but we are on our way).
  • I had experienced quite a drop in income after the meltdown of the real estate market. We still have a fair amount of real estate that is in a good long-term position…but the real estate didn’t create enough actual income to live comfortably. It is a good supplement but I had been relying on a good deal of buying and selling to create a comfortable income.
  • The overall financial pressure of not having enough income on a regular basis was beginning to wear us down.
  • Here’s a positive pressure:  I found I absolutely love connecting and sharing with people who I am and I wanted to continue doing it forever.
  • Another bit of positive pressure: I absolutely love being at home with my family…
  • I was sick and tired of chasing after things that did not truly “resonate” with me
  • I was sick and tired of being unsynchronized (if that makes any sense at all…it certainly does to me and I hope you understand)

All of these things played a role in my own personal catharsis to come to the point of “no return…” to the point of “success or death.” As I mentioned earlier…getting to this point almost always assures success…so it is a great point to be at.

You have heard the saying “being at the end of your rope…” well this is where you need to be. And, in this case when you find yourself at the end it is best to let go. Force yourself into “do or die” mode by letting go of everything that makes you feel “safe and secure” and learn how to fly. If you never come to this point…chances are you will not succeed.

Internet marketing is not easy but it is amazingly fulfilling. It takes a great deal of force to get the momentum going…but once you get it going the law of inertia kicks into effect and a powerful force of momentum takes on a life of its own. The great promises of “easy money” from the spammers is never true…however, the law of sowing and reaping, or the law of reciprocation…or you can call it the law of attraction, kicks in and money seemingly starts to search you out.

It takes effort, earnestness, commitment, time, energy and so much more to get the wheels turning in the right direction.

You also must learn the mechanisms of how to do internet marketing. Otherwise, you may find yourself simply spinning your wheels. You may spend countless hours heading in no particular direction if you don’t know what you are doing.

So, part of this cathartic moment is coming to the realization that you need to learn as much and as fast as you can how to do this. Timing is essential as well. We are at the beginning of the wave. It is best to catch this wave now…then you can ride it for a good long time.

If you want to be a successful internet marketer you need to do a couple of things:

  1. You need to find your true self!
  2. You need to come to your own moment of crisis where you either make the tough choice to fly or let it die.

It is my desire to teach you how to fly…but I can’t make that choice for you…it has to come from that realization that you are incredibly unique and have something powerful to share.

So, I leave you with these two questions:

Are you ready for a personal catharsis of your own to start truly heading down the road of financial freedom and the life you really want to have?

or

Are you going to continue to muddle through, to continue to spam, or continue to spin your wheels gaining no forward momentum and nearly assuring yourself of ultimate defeat?

Let’s stop the madness now and get off of the merry-go-round. I want to help you. Let me! I want to help you find that “you” deep within that will give you the strength to commit at the”do or die” level and intensity.

Then, you have the choice to never stop. You can continue to journey further learning countless steps of how to become an internet marketing master and then to be able to write your own ticket to the life that you want to lead.

I look forward to hearing from you…please be ever so kind and leave a comment. I would love to continue this discussion with you. Also, if you want to learn more about the powerful life that I am talking about and the steps that you may need to take to get there…please take me up on my offer and let me help you! Please walk with me on this journey and together we can create the opportunity for powerful change for your life and business!

Thank you so much for sharing your precious time with me. I know it is so very valuable!

A Father’s Affection…Why You Need IT for Your BUSINESS and Your LIFE!

Thursday, August 6th, 2009

I was sitting with my youngest son this morning not able to do much work because he wanted to be held…so what did I do instead? I held him and enjoyed the amazing connection that I have with him!

You see…I absolutely adore my children! I have seven and I truly believe they are the most beautiful people on this earth!

As I was holding him I was thinking about the incredible freedom that he lives under. I don’t mean freedom from basic rules and guidelines that keep him safe and so forth…but what I am talking about is the freedom from fear, the freedom from self-doubt and the freedom from a sense of utter loneliness that so many people actually feel and realize when they are being honest with themselves.

My son knows my affection and lives in it. He knows what it means to “live loved.”  That is his natural mode of existence. Now of course…he is loved intensely by all of us but there is something about a Father’s love that is just a bit different. It has a different sort of impact on us and it has the power, more than anything else in this universe, to free us from the abiding fear that is ever present in our surroundings. We all know it and feel it at times of uncertainty and loneliness…it is simply a proven fact.

A Father’s affection will create a barrier around the recipient that enables that person to literally soar like an eagle…no fear of tomorrow…hardly even a thought about what tomorrow may or may not bring. Someone who lives in their Father’s affection can literally conquer any obstacle and soar to any height because there is always safety in being loved by a Father!

Don’t get me wrong…I am certainly not discounting the love of a Mother or siblings or spouses or friends or anything else. We all need to feel the love of many people in our lives. The love of a Mother extends compassion to and through us…exceedingly important and so much more…things that a Father usually does not provide. However, for the most part, a Mother’s love does not have the freeing power that  a Father’s love has.

That is why I say for your Business and your Life you need to live in a Father’s affection. There is no more powerful way to become truly FREE to live out life to its fullest extent. Our inability to embrace life and fully engage in life has a great deal to do with how safe we feel and how ultimately we “live loved.” A Father’s love makes us feel safe enough to explore, to attempt, to jump, to journey and grow in areas that we are not familiar with.

Life is constantly throwing hinderances in our way but our natural ability to overcome these have a great deal to do with the Freedom we feel when we are “living loved” in a Father’s affection. The good news is…even if your father was a complete idiot (hopefully not your own) a Father’s love can be experienced through a surrogate or even better through the person of God the Father.

Quite simply though…if you are finding road block after road block in your ability to engage fully as an entrepreneur or simply as a human being, take a step back and consider these things. My youngest son does amazing feats as an 18 month old boy. He does not know the “feeling” of fear. He is not hindered by self-doubt or fear or loneliness. He is completely free to look at the moment he has in front of him and fully engage in it. All that he is can be focused on what is happening right here and now because he has no outside worries of any kind. This is far from true of many 18 month old children. It is in fact more of a rarity…especially these days. By 18 months those feelings of fear and of being unsure of oneself have begun to become cemented in people’s personalities.

I personally also know of this life-changing power of feeling a Father’s affection. The freedom I now experience in life as a 46 year old man is far more than I can ever remember in my years growing up and as a young adult. I came to this realization as I was struggling through my twenties and thirties. I was daring and willing to take risks because I had it as a part of my make-up. However, I was not free of fear and so everything that I did was hampered in one way or another.

It was coming to the understanding that I am truly loved and that I really can live in the Father’s Affection (actually not just an understanding but an emotional reality as well) that freed me to begin to soar and learn how to truly appreciate this life and live it as the adventure it was intended to be. Oh I know that a lot of people live in a heightened state because they have learned how to substitute what I am talking about for strictly positive energy…but it truly is not the same. I know of both. Living in a heightened positive state is very important and powerful…but “living loved” is beyond any ability to convey in mere words.

Take a positively minded and charged individual who understands the laws of reciprocity and the law of attraction and how to positively interact with his/her fellow human beings and let them get a hold of this idea that I am talking about…and even their lives are catapulted to a different level of freedom that is really inconceivable any other way.

I am not asking anyone to become religious (religion simply destroys what I am talking about…it brings bondage and slavery) or to do anything at all other than to consider and meditate on what I am saying. If it rings true for you…I would be so happy to hear about it. If it doesn’t…I completely respect that as well and would love to communicate further with you on these things if you are so inclined.

However, it has been my experience in consulting with thousands of people that the Freedom that a person can truly feel when they feel the affection of a Father is truly unique. Entrepreneurs can soar and life can be experienced in a degree that is nearly inconceivable any other way. I hope  you continue to join me on this “adventure we call life.” If you want to know more about how life can truly be lived in a degree that is beyond you wildest hopes and expectations…subscribe to our newsletter by filling in the boxes on the right…“Living Beyond the Edge…of Normal.”

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Attraction Marketing…Does it Really Work?

Friday, July 31st, 2009

First of all…ATTRACTION MARKETING (at its true core) Really Has Very Little to do with Marketing…IT HAS MORE TO DO WITH LIFE!

This is the secret very few people actually know about. Many people are actively marketing their products and services using traditional methods believing they are using the secret of attraction marketing whereas what they are truly doing is hoping to attract people to their products and services because they have a positive thought or affirmation because they have read somewhere that this works!

Does thinking positive help…absolutely it does! Do making affirmations help…just ask Katie Freiling!  She has a great blog post on this here: http://katiefreiling.com/affirmations/ Affirmations work best when they are actually connected to a positive energy or feeling within yourself. The energy signature (to learn more about this see this blog post here: http://www.howtodolife.com/blog/2009/06/3levelsofheavenpart2/) that is created is the sum total of your thoughts and feelings and the physical interactions within your body such as hormones being released and all sorts of different interactions taking place. All of these things are interconnected and thus create specific energy signatures that attract like energy signatures to yourself. However, it is specifically for this reason that attraction marketing does not work from a traditional marketing concept. I will explain why this is…

Since every thought, action, feeling and interaction within your body and with your surroundings creates certain energy wavelengths or what I like to call energy signatures…the predominance of the self-interested energy involved in traditional marketing will predominantly attract self-interested people mainly wanting to market to you! This isn’t necessarily a bad thing but I have found it is better to have a better foundation than that when trying to build an interactive tribe of people who have a collective interest in each other. We have all heard the saying “the sum is greater than its parts.” This seems to be highlighted in an even greater degree in this new era of social networking!

Attraction Marketing indeed does work when you make your primary focus that of being an asset to other people. When your intentions and actions tend toward giving value to others…the type of people you attract to yourself are those who are interested in giving the same back. This type of interactive approach is far more powerful than having a “marketing” mindset…which is essentially a self-serving mindset.

Attraction Marketing does not work well if taken from the foundational mindset of “I am trying to draw people into my opportunity, or my products, or anything else that I am trying to sell.”

So, I would highly suggest to be constantly vigilant in your core motivations of why you do what you do. People know when your intentions are “for” them! But, they also know when your intentions are to “take” from them.

A genuinely giving mindset and heart is the first order of business for success at every level…

Please leave your comments…I very much would love to hear what you have to say about this!

Remember to “live the adventure” today!