I was overwhelmed with the amount of Trust he has in me. Had I tripped or been distracted or simply didn’t care about him he would have landed on his face on the hard floor.

This got me thinking about my other relationships in life and in business. Most of the great transactions that take place in all of life are built upon the foundation of Trust to some degree or another.

The kicker though is…if you never take time to cultivate that Trust with others…you will never know what I am talking about. Trust is not something that just happens to you…it is built upon hours and years of interaction with others.

So…for example…if you have a Twitter account and never cultivate any interaction and communication with others on Twitter…your experience is going to be completely banal or worse…non-existent…and you will wonder what the big rage is with everyone talking about Twitter. You will have your 30 friends that feel obligated to become your followers but your experience is going to leave you or them no better than when you started.

In fact…I dare say…you will be a bit worse off than when you started. This is true on Facebook as well or any other sites you choose to join. If you are not involved with the interactive process with others…Trust will never be built. And then you will wonder why other people talk about massive success and why you just don’t get it.

My youngest son Trusts me because I am continually interacting with him and taking care of him as good as I know how. I would say he loves me as well…but I am not sure what that means for a two year old. But…this brings up a great point as well…

We don’t need people to love us to Trust us. Many times Trust bridges the gap to love but love is not necessary to be successful in many of your relationships in Life and Business.

Of course…we would hope that our children and spouses and families and close friends love us…but even with these relationships it is probably more important to develop Trust than anything else. Trust actually creates the flow of life unhindered by bitterness and hurt feelings.

We all need to understand this if we are going to be successful business people. Oh…you could make a few bucks taking advantage of people…but in order to have long term success…Trust is King!

Here are a few tips to build trust in your business relationships:

• Keep your word
• Keep in touch/stay in communication
• Have your attitude be that of a “giver” rather than a “taker”
• Touch people’s lives with who you are rather than a canned approach…be real
• Be an Encourager
• Have a personal touch rather than always talking to the “masses”

Building Trust takes some time and consistency but mostly a True Heart…being someone who actually and authentically cares about others and who is willing to serve them.

I very much would like to hear your thoughts…

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You see…I absolutely adore my children! I have seven and I truly believe they are the most beautiful people on this earth!

As I was holding him I was thinking about the incredible freedom that he lives under. I don’t mean freedom from basic rules and guidelines that keep him safe and so forth…but what I am talking about is the freedom from fear, the freedom from self-doubt and the freedom from a sense of utter loneliness that so many people actually feel and realize when they are being honest with themselves.

My son knows my affection and lives in it. He knows what it means to “live loved.”  That is his natural mode of existence. Now of course…he is loved intensely by all of us but there is something about a Father’s love that is just a bit different. It has a different sort of impact on us and it has the power, more than anything else in this universe, to free us from the abiding fear that is ever present in our surroundings. We all know it and feel it at times of uncertainty and loneliness…it is simply a proven fact.

A Father’s affection will create a barrier around the recipient that enables that person to literally soar like an eagle…no fear of tomorrow…hardly even a thought about what tomorrow may or may not bring. Someone who lives in their Father’s affection can literally conquer any obstacle and soar to any height because there is always safety in being loved by a Father!

Don’t get me wrong…I am certainly not discounting the love of a Mother or siblings or spouses or friends or anything else. We all need to feel the love of many people in our lives. The love of a Mother extends compassion to and through us…exceedingly important and so much more…things that a Father usually does not provide. However, for the most part, a Mother’s love does not have the freeing power that  a Father’s love has.

That is why I say for your Business and your Life you need to live in a Father’s affection. There is no more powerful way to become truly FREE to live out life to its fullest extent. Our inability to embrace life and fully engage in life has a great deal to do with how safe we feel and how ultimately we “live loved.” A Father’s love makes us feel safe enough to explore, to attempt, to jump, to journey and grow in areas that we are not familiar with.

Life is constantly throwing hinderances in our way but our natural ability to overcome these have a great deal to do with the Freedom we feel when we are “living loved” in a Father’s affection. The good news is…even if your father was a complete idiot (hopefully not your own) a Father’s love can be experienced through a surrogate or even better through the person of God the Father.

Quite simply though…if you are finding road block after road block in your ability to engage fully as an entrepreneur or simply as a human being, take a step back and consider these things. My youngest son does amazing feats as an 18 month old boy. He does not know the “feeling” of fear. He is not hindered by self-doubt or fear or loneliness. He is completely free to look at the moment he has in front of him and fully engage in it. All that he is can be focused on what is happening right here and now because he has no outside worries of any kind. This is far from true of many 18 month old children. It is in fact more of a rarity…especially these days. By 18 months those feelings of fear and of being unsure of oneself have begun to become cemented in people’s personalities.

I personally also know of this life-changing power of feeling a Father’s affection. The freedom I now experience in life as a 46 year old man is far more than I can ever remember in my years growing up and as a young adult. I came to this realization as I was struggling through my twenties and thirties. I was daring and willing to take risks because I had it as a part of my make-up. However, I was not free of fear and so everything that I did was hampered in one way or another.

It was coming to the understanding that I am truly loved and that I really can live in the Father’s Affection (actually not just an understanding but an emotional reality as well) that freed me to begin to soar and learn how to truly appreciate this life and live it as the adventure it was intended to be. Oh I know that a lot of people live in a heightened state because they have learned how to substitute what I am talking about for strictly positive energy…but it truly is not the same. I know of both. Living in a heightened positive state is very important and powerful…but “living loved” is beyond any ability to convey in mere words.

Take a positively minded and charged individual who understands the laws of reciprocity and the law of attraction and how to positively interact with his/her fellow human beings and let them get a hold of this idea that I am talking about…and even their lives are catapulted to a different level of freedom that is really inconceivable any other way.

I am not asking anyone to become religious (religion simply destroys what I am talking about…it brings bondage and slavery) or to do anything at all other than to consider and meditate on what I am saying. If it rings true for you…I would be so happy to hear about it. If it doesn’t…I completely respect that as well and would love to communicate further with you on these things if you are so inclined.

However, it has been my experience in consulting with thousands of people that the Freedom that a person can truly feel when they feel the affection of a Father is truly unique. Entrepreneurs can soar and life can be experienced in a degree that is nearly inconceivable any other way. I hope  you continue to join me on this “adventure we call life.” If you want to know more about how life can truly be lived in a degree that is beyond you wildest hopes and expectations…subscribe to our newsletter by filling in the boxes on the right…“Living Beyond the Edge…of Normal.”

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